My Fabulous 27

There are plenty of reasons why I feel blessed and fabulous at 27, being alive is the obvious but the ride to this peak time of my life is what thrills me most. Sometimes we focus too much on the destination and not the journey and although both are important, how we get to these places is what makes our testimonies special. I've encountered quite a few road blocks through my passage but with motivation and the support of people, I've managed to pull through. Thank Goodness for those who have helped me along away. I can truly say they are apart of who I've become so far.

You'd think I was a billionaire the way I praise my life but I'm just thankful for everything. I pray I continue to have the blessings of good health, great family and friends. After all, material things come and go but a great support system is hard to fine. I hear lots of stories of people turning their backs on loved ones who are suffering and well that's just sad. What kind of friend leaves others to fall flat on their face? I found out through experiences, the beauty of relationships is because of its ups and downs.  I don't need people to be around only when it's time to sip champaign. I also don't expect people to do things for me just because I do certain things for them. All I need is understanding and a shoulder to lean on when shit hits the fan. I'm a piece of work and far from perfect but I'm protective and supportive to the people I love. Although they piss me off from time to time, it doesn't stop me from being there for them.

Kelly Cutrone talks about "The No Matter What Club", in her book "Normal Gets You Nowhere, which you must go and buy after reading this post. Cutrone talks about being picky about the people we call our friends. She said, "Most of us are too quick to call people our friends, too quick to say I love you and to quick to write people off forever." She explains how the people we love may one day let us down or hurt us, but that doesn't mean we cut them off. Instead we need to reach out and be that life jacket when the one we love is drowning in the deep end.

Look at what happen to the talented Amy Winehouse, at age 27 she was found dead in her apartment from a drug overdose. My friend spilled the news as we were on our way to dinner to celebrate my 27th birthday. Now I know Amy chose to do drugs but I can't help to wonder how many people gave up on her. It saddens me to see her life end so short. So many people spoke about her addiction instead of talking about how we can prevent people from ending their lives so soon. There are so many ways we can be supportive without tolerating someone's bad choices. It starts with a simple phone call or text message ( the new way of communication) just to show that you care.

To My "No Matter What Club".
Thanks for being there for me no matter what! You all know I'm crazy but sweet and I mean well.

Rest In Peace Amy Winehouse

pic of Winehouse from google images

xoxo Madame Q

Out&About

Hanging out with friends is always a thrill.... we have a blast just being ourselves. No drinks necessary but a glass of wine or martini is always a pleasure right along with some good grub. Check out the side bar Fab Places to Dine and Lime to visit some of the best spots in NYC.

xoxo Madame Q

Sweet 16 Dreams

At 16 I visioned that I'll have the career of my dreams, be married with a baby and living in a fabulous house by the age of 26.  Did anyone catch that? First and foremost, why was I thinking about being married with a baby at that age? Don't get me wrong I'm happy I wasn't thinking of having a family before graduating college but damn.

No wonder why I never knew how to be single, I've been looking for a husband every since I was 16 and now that I'm 26 and going on 27 in 8 days, I'm nowhere close to being married. Thank goodness!! What a disaster it would be if I committed to another person before committing to myself. Now I'm not saying there is anything wrong with having all of that at 26 or later. I'm just saying... divorce rates are high for some of the silliest reasons. I have no time to be giving anyone a crazy reasons on why "It's just not working out".

Does this mean I regret any of my past relationships? Hell no! I've learned a lot from each of them. I crack myself up on how I use to try and change some of my boyfriends back then. Hey I was on the prow to being married by 26.  Who was stopping me? Each time I found "the boy/man of my dreams" I was fixed on going in for the long haul. Even when there was no "official title" I treated the person like they were the only one. Lucky them... silly me. Like I said I knew nothing about being single. There are plenty of things I could've done differently but I guess it wasn't in my plans to do so. I'm happy with my experiences and what matters now is how I love from here on.

Early this year I made a decision to break away from a 5 year relationship which was the best one I've had so far.  I feared for a while that I'll may never find someone to love me the same way but right now that's the least of my worries. I know when Love is ready for me again it will show up unexpectedly and this time around there is no rush. I'm taking my time!

Look out... I'm successful, sexy and single. Who gon' check me boo?



xoxo Madame Q